This photo was taken at WBPT2 studio in Miami. Here Ethan and I filmed our 1st four vignettes for Public Television, Channel 2. We will be shooting 12 all together, based on our book, Raising Your Game – Over 100 Accomplished Athletes Help You Guide Your Girls and Boys Through Sports. Check back – as we will update this spot to let our audience know when they will begin airing on TV.
Trust: It’s everything As Miami Heat forward Udonis Haslem learned at an early age, trust reverberates at the heart of youth sports. Udonis Haslem came up short. Or so he thought. “I was playing with some older guys,” Has-lem recalled. ‘And I took a shot. And it was an air ball.” The ball could have crashed to the concrete, taking Udonis’s confidence down with it. “That would have embarrassed me,” the Miami Heat forward conceded. But on that day, as on so many others, the 11-year-old was not alone. He was playing on the same side as someone he trusted, someone who was more than 16 years older, but who had consistently set an example that someone still growing could clearly understand and appreciate. He was playing with his stepbrother Sam Wooten. “He was a selfless person,” Haslem said. “He did for other people. He sacrificed his own goals and […]
Dwyane Wade has made no secret of his desire to inspire the young. Not long ago, the Miami Heat guard and author of “A Father First” even shared some of his parenting secrets in our book, “Raising Your Game,” specifically speaking of how he has learned to instruct his sons, Zaire and Zion, differently, accounting for their differences in temperament. His influence goes well beyond his household, even if it starts there. And, in that context, it’s worth highlighting this passage in the story I wrote about him this week for Bleacher Report, as part of a lengthy sitdown. So, when asked what he still wants to prove, he touched on a familiar, favorite topic. “For one, overcoming, man,” Wade said. “Just proving that I can overcome adversity, which I’ve done my whole life. And every time that something else hit me, finding a way to overcome it. I mean, […]
RAISING PARENTAL AWARENESS IN YOUTH SPORTS What Really Matters The sports landscape has changed dramatically since I grew up in the 1960s. In some ways, it’s been for the better, with roughly 40 million children playing some form of organized sports each year. In some ways, it’s been for the worse, as studies consistently show that 70% of children drop out by the age of 13. Some of this attrition is understandable, when accounting for developmental factors, especially as a young athlete entering puberty. Interests change, with different sports or hobbies becoming more appealing. Peer influences play a part, with a natural gravitation toward what their closest friends are doing. Yet, the overwhelming reason is even simpler than that: Fun hasn’t been put first. That became clear to me over the course of my 20 years as a psychologist specializing in youth sports and parenting issues. I have encountered countless […]
HOW TO TALK TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT RAY RICE In our book “Raising Your Game,” we address the subject of role models, and which are appropriate for your children. “Given the ubiquity, popularity, and prosperity of sports stars in today’s ESPN’s-driven culture, and the admiration that everyone from peers to parents expresses for those ‘heroes,’ it is understandable and perhaps even inevitable that many kids would idolize those athletes, seek to emulate them, and to dream to someday become them. Of course, not every athlete is an appropriate role model or source of inspiration. This means you need to pose questions. You should learn more about the athlete’s qualities, on and of the playing field, and dig deeper into why the child is drawn in that direction.” In light of the recent controversy involving now-former Baltimore Ravens running back Ray Rice, we feel compelled to add a bit more on […]